17/10/22, edits made in 24/05/23 and final edits made 25/06/23.
In my opinion, believing in the existence of “political correctness” or “PC culture” is a position incompatible with being progressive and can be used as a tool to shut down conversations about social norms changing to accommodate more people.
To my understanding, “political correctness” implies the existence of a silent majority within society who use progressive terms, categories and rules of public behavior in a purely performative manner, and secretly hate doing it. If someone is being too kind to marginalized groups, they are probably self-censoring to appease some network of social pressure and by extension a vicious system that has created said network. As to who is responsible for its creation, the specifics very. That almost conspiratorial flavor can even be found in its name. Someone is telling us what’s correct when there’s no one way to be correct about politics. It has this top-down, manufactured consent feel to it. “No one actually wants this, but people just want to live their lives, so they comply.”
What the term does, is it makes the target audience – mostly moderates, centrists and those who self-declare as not caring about politics feel like something is being taken away from them and leveraging their defensive reaction against movements for social change. It makes them believe that they are being inconvenienced by, say, having to avoid outdated terms, slurs or deadnaming trans people, and that this inconvenience is equal to or similarly important as the oppression marginalized groups face.
As I have come to know from debates, as well as some people’s response to COVID restrictions, nothing is stronger in acting on one’s emotions than an appeal to personal liberty. And if someone has not seen, experienced or often even heard how oppression really works, it is very easy to equate living with some maybe non-obvious restrictions for the good of others with being censored. This specific defensive reaction gets drilled into people’s heads especially after they engage with the flood of articles and TV programming all eagerly reporting each piece of non-news about some asshole losing a job over breaking the anti-harrassment policies of their workplace. Each feeds the knee-jerk reaction of “defend status quo” and backs it up with more points.
You can think of the free speech retort as a tool, which becomes cognitively available whenever there is even a slight chance of a person being challenged on how they think about and treat others. A way to shut down a conversation. If someone is skilled at steering debates their way, they will make every effort to shift the discussion of: “is it okay to treat someone like this?”, “is it okay to say something to/about this person/group, and why?”, “at what point does personal offense become politically significant?” into a discussion of “do I have the right to say what I want?”
To which the answer is technically yes. A long exchange about free speech follows, sometimes including excerpts from legal documents to make it smarter. Despite the fact that free speech has exactly nothing to do with relationships between individuals or organizations, how they choose to befriend each other, associate, endorse, et cetera, only what the government can enforce on people, it becomes generalized to a point where (I’m exaggerating here) a person slamming a door on another person during a fight can be discussed in terms of governments and courts. It’s laughable really, but the objective has been reached. The relevant issues go undiscussed and the interlocutor is tired out. Their time is wasted.
The appeal of this tool is universal. It can be used no matter what one believes in practice. Maybe someone is mostly friendly to a group but likes the idea of colorblindness as opposed to outspoken diversity “everyone is unique; why call yourself gay and go to pride if sexual orientation isn’t a big deal?” or perhaps they’re hiding some more negative opinions and simply sanitizing their arguments “I just don’t think someone can fully change their birth sex”.
Regardless of their other politics, someone who believes in the existence of political correctness has acquired this entitled attitude, prioritizing convenience of the “normal” people over anyone and anything else. Despite how the loudest people frame it, it is indeed entitled to try to get people with certain inherent characteristics to pretend to not have them or be okay with being treated badly. We have to respect people, we don’t have to respect opinions. Being inclusive is about protecting people, not views.
Sticking to what you’re used to appears more common sense than changing opinions in light of new information. Still, changing vocabulary isn’t in and of itself a feat. We do it all the time throughout our lives. Conservatives fearmongering about PC culture don’t change their language specifically because they actively hate these groups. But if we’re willing to change language, the more changes become available to us, the more we have to choose between them and set some kind of priorities. The question is then, if someone doesn’t prioritize changing language in regards to oppressed minority groups, but chooses to do so in other areas, what care do they have for those people, really? It’s very telling. It shows the kind of apathy and disinterest people have in anything that doesn’t touch on their daily life, anything they can’t immediately empathize with.
Confusion is a natural response to change, and can be overcome if someone is introduced to it reasonably. However, the moment the tempting explanation of it being political correctness gets a hold of someone, that task becomes much much harder, often near impossible. After all, how can you explain to someone who is feeling defensive that it’s nothing personal, nothing grand? That there is no great shadowy cabal pouring money into making people gender trans people correctly, or type Black instead of black? That it’s simply a matter of taking into consideration the wellbeing of more people? How can you look at someone so angry and willing to die on this hill, tell them “it’s not about you, your freedom is not in danger” and expect a quiet, resigned “I have never thought of it like that”?
Unfortunately I have no guide on how to deal with it, there is no happy ending to this story. I’m sure my take on this issue isn’t unique either. I just thought it would be worth it to share the negative impact of this rhetoric.
The feeling of being wronged is a powerful one, it can mobilize individuals and groups alike to achieve incredible feats. But it isn’t in itself virtuous. This very real feeling can be weaponized for fighting fictitious fights, and against progress for society, and has been used that way many times throughout history. It’s good to make a hard stop sometimes and reflect on an actual power balance in a conflict, both on the personal and political level.